Scared to death

-or- a huge commitment

Published on April 20, 2006 By BlueDev In Just Hanging Out

Tomorrow morning we fly to New Hampshire.

Saturday we spend the day looking for a house.

I am scared to death.

There are a lot of things about this next stage of life that frighten me. I can admit that. Moving to an entirely new place, being an actual doctor, that first night of call when I am the one in charge of 70 patients, the first patient who dies on my watch.

But right now, I am most terrified of the prospect of buying a house. We have been renting for a long time now. We didn't buy because we didn't think we would be in one place long enough, and to be honest, I think we made the right choice. But since we will be at Dartmouth for 6 years, I think it is a better idea to buy.

But I have to admit, it scares the crap out of me.

Comments

dynamaso

on Apr 20, 2006

"Fear is the little darkroom where negatives are developed" - Michael Pritchard

"Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the main sources of cruelty. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom." - Bertrand Russell

I think it is wise of you to be a little scared given you're about to not only move yourself but your family as well to somewhere completely away from all you know. But I also know you are resilient and it won't be long before you find your groove.

Good luck with the house-hunting. It is an exciting time and I'm sure you'll enjoy yourself (or at least look back at it with some enjoyment).

SanChonino

on Apr 20, 2006

It's official - you're getting really freaking old. Three kids, a wife of . . . seven years? Am I right? And now, finally . . . (drumroll, maestro, and a real rocker, like an Adel Moustafa tribal drumroll) . . . almost done with Med School! And thirty years old in like three months.
Wow.
Whenever I start to feel old, I just need to think of you, bro.

good luck on the house hunting - find a real hum-dinger. I know you don't give a hoot about the yard, because you'll be too busy to do anything about it, but get one with a big, nice yard. That would be a blast.
Wish the wife and kids well for me. Kisses (for them - manly chest-thumps for you)!

BlueDev

on Apr 21, 2006

seven years?

8 (Jessica will be 7 this year!)

Thanks for the encouraging words. And yes, the fact that I am posting after 1 in the morning should tell you it is another fun filled night of call in the SICU!

Cordelia

on Apr 21, 2006

Buying a house can be scary, and so is moving across the country. I understand, I've done this myself more than once. It's difficult, it's stressful...but it will be worth it. I think recognizing that you are afraid of something can make dealing with it easier (rather than, say, taking it out on the family). One step at a time and before you know it you'll have a great house and you'll be settled in at your new job. Best wishes to you and the family Peter - whenever you get the chance to read this!

Dr Guy

on Apr 21, 2006

First, rent for about a year. That will help you learn the good places around town and where you want to live. Second, Get a Buyer's agent. They will represent you. Your co-workers will probably be a good source of recommendations for that. Oh, and the Buyer's agent? The seller still pays their commission, so it is free!

And good luck!

crimson

on Apr 21, 2006

manly chest-thumps for you

hehe.

What an exciting time for you. I realize that there's pressure,certainly, but buying your first house is a pinnacle event.

That doctor thing... it sounds scary to have such responsibility. I know you can do it, though!

SanChonino

on Apr 22, 2006

8 (Jessica will be 7 this year!)

Holy crap! I'm out of touch with things, and your kids are getting old! Wow. Sorry man. Look at you, married eight years, and I can't even keep a steady girlfriend.

Hope the house-hunting went well. I don't know jack diddle about that sort of thing, but I hope you at least felt it was productive. Much wishes of luck! (That sounds kind of disjointed, but I like the phrase anyway - much wishes of luck! Sounds like a bad translation on a fortune cookie. "Confucious say . . ."

)

Jetting Through Life

on Apr 22, 2006

Good luck searching for a home... It is a scarey decision to make...

Take care!

JTL

momijiki

on Apr 28, 2006

It will be great. Scary but great.

I moved to Japan not knowing a soul here and not knowing the language.

It was scary, but it was great. Living overseas was something I had been working toward.

You are about to achieve something you have been working towards. It will be scary. It will be great. You will be fine and you will do well.

BTW others gave some good advice about getting to know an area and real estate....

When we first moved to Tokyo, my husband had to chose an apartment and we decided to chose it based only on train lines convenient to him as I wasn't working. It was awful. I hated living there but tried to make the best of it.

As we got to know Tokyo better I found a bunch of areas I liked better. Some we couldn't afford, but we found areas nearby in our range.

When we moved back to TOkyo, we kept this very much in mind and moved near an area I really liked, and I love where I live and am much happier.

Dynosoar

on Apr 28, 2006

Hey Blu,
Ditto on Dr. Guy's advice, with a reminder to look out for points, and other add-ons in the mortgage. 6.5% APR can actually be higher than 8.25% APR if the initial charges are included.
NH is also a State income tax free area ( if I remember correctly ) so they compensate with higher property taxes, so tread lightly....oh yeah, save gobs of $$$ with short terms, never take the 30 year mortgage!
Good Luck up Nawth....

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