A silly little blog for me to drop the excrement of my mind.
-or- Hiding behind the net
Published on April 26, 2004 By BlueDev In Blogging
In my years of navigating the ofttimes murky waters of the net I have noticed an interesting phenomenon. It is one that can be seen at just about any forum, BB, Usenet group, IRC channel, and so on. In fact it only takes a quick glance over a random sampling of threads here at good old Joe User to see this phenomenon in action. And it is such a simple principle really.

Anonymity breeds arrogance.

It most certainly does. Hiding behind our screen names we have the power to construct for ourselves elaborate, intricate personas. These may be true to life, slightly sensational, or even fantastically false. And this fabrication can be wonderfully fun and therapeutic. We can act out some of our fantasies, speak our minds on issues we find important, and craft an identity for ourselves that those who know us in real life might not be familiar with. We can also strive to be honest, be ourselves, and gain acceptance through that honesty.

But we can also be emboldened by the invisibility.

The fact that those with whom we interact often do not really know who we are can lead us to embarrassing levels of arrogance. People rise up with indignation about the slightest offending comment. We spout off ill-conceived opinions at random because, even if they are ignorant, who really cares because who really knows? Comments that would be offered with tact and care in person are often vomited forth with reckless abandon on the net. And why?

Because we can comfortably hide behind our camouflage.

Overbearance often becomes the order of the day. Respect and tact are forgotten in an effort to "express our opinions". We step on toes because we never really see them, so how can they hurt? And we refuse to put our foot in our mouth because we can always respond with 1,000 posts about how we were misinterpreted, how the sarcasm or humor didn't translate adequately to the written word, how we didn't really do anything wrong. And all because we feel we can.

Not all do this, but I believe we are all subject to the temptation to do so. I know I have been guilty of this on more than one occasion. Hopefully though, being aware of the possibility can help to prevent a certain multitude of sins.

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on Apr 26, 2004
Here, here

Very insightful, and also very true

--Syrrus
on Apr 26, 2004
Hope you don't disbelieve this...I was thinking the same thing yesterday when I was reading a certain someones post. But then again I have thought this about the net for a long time. If you ever get to my other BLOG, you will see one of my posts refers to it.."to someone they can not put a face on?" Anyway, I am glad you wrote this, I not only agree with it, I don't think I could have written it as well as you have.
on Apr 26, 2004
A. True
B. False

umm... gotta go with "A" on this one...

on Apr 26, 2004
Thanks for the kind replies! I think I had mulled this idea around for a while, but suddenly today it just sort of became both obvious and easy to put into words. I hope I can avoid falling into that trap.
on Apr 26, 2004
It doesn't apply to me but I definitely see it a lot. I don't use my real name and I leave out details but I am never untruthful and what you read is what you get. It would be a very sad thing if I had made up my persona. Guess it would just mean I was very lacking in the creativity dept

Nicely done.
on Apr 26, 2004
Who I am here is who I am anywhere else. No facade, no faking...just me. I worry sometimes that people will find me dull and uninteresting...but then again, I don't write to entertain people.
on Apr 26, 2004
JillUser and dharmagirl-Don't worry, I think that there are those (like myself) who really and truly do appreciate the honesty we find in your work. It is that candor that is endearing.

I just fear that far too often people allow their anonymity to embolden them to forget the basic principles of respect and decency.
on Apr 26, 2004
I just fear that far too often people allow their anonymity to embolden them to forget the basic principles of respect and decency.


Brad said this before, and I thoroughly agree with him: Never say anything to another person online that you wouldn't say to their face. I often wonder how many cyber-spats would have been avoided around here had the participants adhered to that rule of thumb.
on Apr 26, 2004
i have a confession. i make up everything I post.

I'm really a 400 lb loser who can't fit thru my door to get out of the house. I have to have food brought in to sustain life.

I watch a lot of cartoons, and i blog... such is my life. I don't appreciate you posting this article

you have no idea what it's like to go thru life weighing 400 lbs... i haven't seen my penis in 7 years... i couldn't tie my shoes even if i had a pair that fit, even if i could actually leave my house... you people make me sick
on Apr 26, 2004
i really enjoyed this article. i'm also pleased to see the positive response - it seems you speak for a lot of people bluedev, certainly for me.

i read several blogs, and i feel i should comment to reflect in the authors' pointscore, as fair reward for their effort, and also to offer thanks and encouragement. things i would say aloud.

but when commenting gets misinterpreted and turned into anything from a slanging-match to a show of personal support in the "author" (that gets you flamed by all of their detractors in turn as well), you just give up !.

i'm glad you made this point and did it so well. thanks. mig.
on Apr 26, 2004
Imajinit- have I ever told you what a genius you are? Hehehe....

~Buddha
on Apr 26, 2004
That is very true. I had posted "Flame Warriors" site in my blog once, a must-read.

Generally, I am what I post, with no "persona"
on Apr 26, 2004
Brad said this before, and I thoroughly agree with him: Never say anything to another person online that you wouldn't say to their face. I often wonder how many cyber-spats would have been avoided around here had the participants adhered to that rule of thumb.


That's how I treat things here. I'm brash and arrogant in real life, and pretty outspoken too. I don't need a veil of secrecy to say what I really think. It might not make me the most popular person, but at least I feel better about showing my true colors, rather than living behind a PC facade.

-- B
on Apr 27, 2004
Spot on dude...

I do have a simple rule though - whether it be on the phone, or on the Internet, or to someone else... Never say anything about someone or about yourself that you wouldn't say in real life...

obviously, there are many that dont live by this rule, but i am talking about me here, not them!

BAM!!!
on Apr 27, 2004
I am sorry to say that being annonomous does embolden me sometimes to be arrogant, etc. Those who have read some of my articles must think I am two people. One kind and good........the other mean and arrogant. You bloggers have taught me a lot more than you realize. And I appreciate most of you for telling me your true feelings about different aspects of life. Reading articles from real people is one of the best experiences I have had on the net.
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