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Published on September 21, 2004 By BlueDev In Home & Family
My classmates and I are celebrating. We are now third year medical students at Duke. Many of use are doing research, and actually working normal hours. After our clinical year, the thought of working normal 40-50 hour work weeks is scrumptious. Simply delectable. And the anthem many of us have been repeating daily is "No call for ten months!"

However, I was painfully reminded that that isn't necessarily true.

You see, being a parent really is being on call every night. You never know how long you are going to sleep when you go to bed every night. There are no guarantees that you are going to get 3, 4, 5, or (perish the thought!) 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Our littlest one has been feeling under the weather the past couple of days (but she seems to be doing much better tonight!), and as such just hasn't been sleeping well. After finally getting her down by about midnight Sunday night/Monday morning I got up with her at 1:30, 3:00, 4:00, 5:00, and 6:00. Needless to say, I was a little tired yesterday. And, of course, my classmates simply couldn't understand why.

And last night, when it took until about 2:30 to get her to settle down, I knew it was going to be a rough day.

But that is just part of being a parent. While many of my classmates hear those stories and express their gratitude they don't have children, I suppose my wife and I just look at it as another part of life and growing up. One we welcome with bloodshot, puffy eyes.

Comments
on Sep 21, 2004
Your classmates may be glad that they don't have children now, but they might envy you later.
on Sep 21, 2004
Congratulations for being in your third year.

Hmm. I'm thinking about your kids growing up with a parent who'll (likely) be on call a great deal of the time. My dad was, and we got used to it. He even ran out of my parents 30th anniversary dinner, not because of a mid-life crisis but because some idiot had shot himself in the foot and, well, it's a small town, two docs, and Dad was on call. I vaguely remember that he had to leave a couple of my birthday parties, too. But we got used to it. It's all good now and we were proud of what he did and still does. Hopefully your family will feel the same (and you'll have more partners to split call with...).

Anyway, congrats.

-A.
on Sep 21, 2004
Thanks for the comments.

Ravenblack - When I remind my classmates that when my wife and I are 50 our children will be grown and gone then they don't think it is such a bad idea.

Angloesque-That had always been one of my concerns about practicing medicine. And while it is something we are prepared for, I won't deny that in choosing my specialty that will be something of a factor. Right now I am planning on Urology (which is what my research is in), so the call shouldn't be too horrendous with that one. They don't get called in in the middle of the night or on weekends nearly as often as, say, the Orthopedists or General Surgeons.
on Sep 22, 2004
BlueDev - Good call. I think that's what my brother's going into, for the exact same reasons. He also just started his third year. Anyway, just know that a family can and does get used to a parent M.D. leaving for calls in the middle of dinner, or in the night, or vacation. It happens and you just kinda roll with it. I'll have to watch you and see how things go.

Best of luck.

-A.
on Sep 23, 2004
Thanks for your encouraging words. I really do appreciate them, and it is good to know families can not only cope, but do well with that kind of parent.