A silly little blog for me to drop the excrement of my mind.
-or- show a little more backbone
Published on October 20, 2004 By BlueDev In Blogging
Good afternoon everyone. Yes, yes, please come in, sit down. Today I would like to discuss with you something that has been weighing heavily on my mind. But first, may I set before you a question? Good.

Who here would turn around and walk away from a conversation they started? No explanation, no "Sorry, got to go", just turn around and walk off, to only strike up a conversation with someone a few feet away?

Hmm, I'm not seeing many hands. Come on, raise them up, high so we can count.

Oh, so you are saying you that you wouldn't do that? It would be rude you say? I see. Oh no, no I agree, it would be terrible rude to strike up a conversation and then just walk away, no explanation, no closure, nothing. That is why I don't do it, and I am sure that is why so few here are actually raising their hands.

So why do some think it is acceptable to do with their blogs?

I am getting so sick of the run-away bloggers. They are a minority, of course. Most here have the decency to either continue or openly terminate a conversation. Yet there continue to be those who write a topic (often of a somewhat controversial nature), enable comments, receive them, and then run away. In the past few days I have been involved with multiple examples of these encounters and, frankly, it is kindles my indignation.

If you are going to say something controversial (and in some cases ignorant) but not answer appropriate and important questions then don't waste our time by enabling comments. I find it insulting, cowardly, and rude. And if you realize you said something stupid, and got called on it, have the 'nads to admit you were hasty in your comments.

Look, I understand things happen, life gets busy, and blogging isn't expected to be the center of your day. But when you turn and, without explanation, leave the discussion only to be seen striking up another one it shows little concern for what you write, and even less for those who took the time to read and respond.

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on Oct 20, 2004
Yup.

There's a diagnosis for this...what is it...oh, I remember: "Ignore."

After you've been ignored by them, return the favor.

-A.
on Oct 20, 2004
I do agree that people should be upfront about the fact they could say the wrong thing while commenting on a blog. I know I type, look at other websites while I'm trying to figure what I want to say. For me, I have to be careful if I do choose to comment in the political threads. I have a tendency to get emotional over the issue. It's also could end a potential flame war before it gets too out of hand.

Running away is the easy way out. Ok, you made a mistake on a blog -- don't feel embarassed about it. It happens to everybody.
on Oct 20, 2004
There have been a couple times when I've been wrong on a blog, and I KNOW I respond well when people kindly point out the error. Unfortunately, in blogsphere, if you make a mistake you get strung out to dry for it. I've seen bloggers with good manners, and then I've seen, well, other bloggers. (And I've probably been an "other" blogger, too...*shiver* Oops. Scary.)

-A.
on Oct 20, 2004
Great article, Bluedev. I have let a thread or two of mine die because I got bored with the back-and-forth, and I now realize that I probably should have posted something saying that on the thread as a courtesy to the other blogger. Thanks for making me think (I often need help with that!).
on Oct 20, 2004
Who here would turn around and walk away from a conversation they started? No explanation, no "Sorry, got to go", just turn around and walk off, to only strike up a conversation with someone a few feet away?


HAHAHA!! That would be me... but in my defense, I was drunk at the time(s)... HAHAHA!

As for here on JU, I try to answer comments but sometimes forget... But I don't think I've come back to a thread and started answering other comments or went on to another blog without at least checking back over the comments left for me. In fact, going over what's in my comments sections is often one of the first things I do when I check my blog. Even before I write anything new. I like to interact with the people here. I stay off the political threads, though. That's just dangerous.

Well, that's a lot of pointless ramble right there. So, let me finish up by saying...

Very nice post (I seem to say that a lot, I need something more original). I'd go so far as to say very Insightful post...
on Oct 20, 2004
Damn everybody stole my joke already...u guys suck!

I only walk away when it turns real nasty. And rarely don't get the last word on my own blog. Thats the nice part about being a meglomaniacal opinionated blogger with ADD...


OK,what was i talking about?

on Oct 20, 2004
^^ LMAO.
on Oct 20, 2004
I thought about just walking away and leaving this alone, you know, as an example, but. . .

Naw, I will pop back in.

Anglo--Yeah, I have thought about ignoring them. And I still think it is a good idea, but I don't seem to write things that are controversial or political enough to attract the guilty parties to come here and play. Oh well, such is the life in the boring blog (the original title of my blog).

Dusk411--You are right. It does happen to everybody. I have no problem with it happening, but when folks run rather than respond, well, I get cranky.
on Oct 20, 2004
Tex--Threads die, no doubt. I don't feel that we should all have to respond to every single comment on a thread (though I try to because, well, if you took the time to come by and comment the least I can do is say thanks). It is when there is an active conversations, with questions and such being posed the author, then to leave it alone is rude IMO.

Chiprj--I forget as well. And when a comment gets posted on an old article of mine it is easy to miss. Don't get me wrong, I am forgiving and try to be understanding. But just running away. Well...

Thatoneguy--If it gets nasty I would walk away as well, but I would also leave a little one liner saying so. Just me though.
on Oct 20, 2004
I am in complete agreement. If you happen to agree with what I write, fantastic. If you think I'm wrong, and say so in a constructive manner, that's even more fun. Nothing drives the world like discussion. It's sad how often people forget that.
on Oct 20, 2004
BlueDev--Sorry, I meant ignore their blogs. Like don't click on them if you know they won't engage in discussion. I tried for a long time to get the Martian to respond to things he'd written, but never could. So now I hit the "ignore" button in my brain and don't bother checking out whether/not Noah's Ark has actually been discovered. Of course it takes some amount of effort to not click and type, but hey...I can put up with biting holes through my tongue. (Can a tongue get callouses?)

-A.
on Oct 20, 2004
Angloesque--I am just a little slow today. Now that I read your previous comment that it seems perfectly clear that was what you meant. And you are completely correct, if they cannot respond to comments then I will just not leave them any.

Philomedy--Just like you said, what good is leaving comments on if you aren't going to participate in the discussion that arises there? Thanks for stopping by.
on Oct 20, 2004
>> Hmm, I'm not seeing many hands. Come on, raise them up, high so we can count.

I haven't done that here yet. In some other places where I've gotten fed up with being shot and flamed for talking, I've just turned away and leave after putting in my say. It's the feeling that I had to say something, but I don't feel like reading their typically rude responses anymore. Calling me on a meaning of individual words for an instance, or taking my posts apart and responding them sentence by sentence not caring for the big picture, the meaning of the entire post - what a cheap trick! You can do that to anybody and make them look ridiculous. If you take the time to make me look ridiculous, I will take no time to respond to you.

hmf...(sorry about the ramble)

'Round here, if a member clearly never responds to my comments, I just eventually wouldn't bother leaving any at all. I'm obviously not significant enough to these high and might types to warrant their attention or appreciation.

I try to acknowledge all comments I recieve.
on Oct 20, 2004
I find that I usually come into a convesation after everyone's left so when I comment on other peoples comments or ask questions (on my own blog) all I'm really doing is bumping an old boring blog that the people who visited the previous day don't see or return back to to see and so the blog dies even more and I look like I'm just trying to bump my own articles when in reality the bloggers in question are at work or asleep when I blog or vice-versa. Darn Time-zones!
on Oct 20, 2004
Hmm interesting. I think I may...oh I see something more interesting.......
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