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Published on December 2, 2004 By BlueDev In Personal Relationships
Group dynamics are a fascinating thing. And while I don't have any formal training in that area I have had a fair amount of leading groups and working with them, as well as a bizarre fascination with observing the manner in which humans interact with each other. In that time I have noticed many phenomena, one of which has been more on my mind as of late.

Interesting things happen to people when they get together. No matter the group they are in, once they begin to congregate the beginnings of the ugly mob mentality take root.

It happens in real life, it happens on the net. Those who are like-minded in some manner will find each other, or find their commonalities, and begin to gang up. Political discussions are a prime example, but this is evident elsewhere. A member of the group gets a bee in their bonnet and suddenly the cajoling, back-slapping, and encouraging gains momentum. The enemy of one becomes the enemy of all. The cause of one becomes the cause of all.

This can be beneficial, as the collective efforts of the group can often accomplish much good. But as with all things in life, it is a two edged sword. In an effort to support the members of our mob we can often forget our own identity to a degree. We adopt the ideas of the others and begin to assimilate them into our own. And with this can come a negativity for that which we have no cause to hate.

Then it gets ugly. Suddenly we see groups attacking others they deem to be weaker than themselves. Often members of the group are carried along, somewhat unwillingly, but without the strength to separate them from the mob. The fever heightens, emotion runs high, the members of the mob feed off that emotional rush and rational thought becomes the slave to gut reaction, subsumed by the roiling tide of "Way to go!", and "You tell him/her!"

In the wake of this tide are the ruins of what may have once been flourishing relationships, now broken and bent under the force of the mob. But if we fail to see past the haze of smoke rising from the torches, we may never see the damage we leave behind on our "righteous" quest to "kill the beast".

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on Dec 02, 2004
Keep it vague and everybody gets a little something.


I suppose that is the point. I want anyone who reads my articles (at least these vague ones) to get something from them that they can take home.

See, I have an actual, paper journal for when I want to really let loose. That I do for myself, not for others to read. I know that isn't the way in which others operate here. And at times I choose to be more direct and blunt. This wasn't one of those times, and so in a few free minutes I had earlier tonight this article is what popped out. I will most certainly take into consideration your comments for future articles, though. I appreciate them.
on Dec 02, 2004
Texas Wahine--No need to apologize to me. I always enjoy your visits to my little neck of the net.
on Dec 02, 2004
This really isn't the place to exercise a grudge against me. I'll go to my BLOG and post a special article for you to comment on. Go gather your jack-booted friends.
on Dec 02, 2004
Frightlever: I don't want to argue or fight with you. You be you and I'll go on about my business. Peace.
on Dec 02, 2004
I really am sorry about this BlueDev - you've been a total gentleman. I'll lay off here for a while if this is what I can expect. I maintain I've nothing against the article, just the vagueness. Hey, it would be a boring world if we all wanted the same thing, huh?
on Dec 02, 2004
Hey, it would be a boring world if we all wanted the same thing, huh?


Good point.
on Dec 02, 2004
I thought this was a pretty interesting article, but it turned into an even more interesting thread. With a lovely ending, I might add.

I'll add my two cents and say that I like the fact that the article was written in broad terms, and that it may be interpreted or applied on a number of levels. However, I basically read it one way.

Frightlever's comment actually gave me three other readings, that I hadn't even considered, as well as making me really laugh out loud. (I mean the Springer thing...c'mon that was funny.) The fact that there were suddenly other ways to read the article only increased its value in my eyes.

You know what they say: one user's trolling is another user's insightful. Just goes to show how different people can read things differently.
on Dec 03, 2004
When I read this article, I gave it an insightful right off the bat. I took it as one person's view of how humans often behave. So often when we are not sure of our own identity, we become people pleasers. We will do anything to be accepted by the group whatever it may have as it goal.


When I read the following paragraph: "The leader deems something offensive, and they will all agree. How dare you if you don't agree. Let's tear that person down by analysing everything that person do and fitting her against a negative stereotype. While we do that, let's smash our shiny mirrors." I thought of one of principles of Scripture that bears out this same tendency of humans who are insecure in who they are.

LK 6:41 Why do you notice the splinter in your brother's eye, but do not perceive the wooden beam in your own?

on Dec 03, 2004
Hamster 311--I was also intrigued by Frightlever bringing some ideas into the discussion that I hadn't originally thought of. As he mentioned, some will like the vague manner of the article, others won't. I did, which is why I suppose I wrote it that way. And yes, the Springer comment was funny. Thanks for you comments and adding to the discussion.

oleteach--You get an insightful right back from me. Luke 6:41 is absolutely applicable here. Too often we find ourselves grasping at motes we see in others, failing to do any good because of that beam that is so obstructing our vision. Thank you for your wisdom.
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