A silly little blog for me to drop the excrement of my mind.
-or- A blaze of glory for the vainglorious
Published on December 14, 2004 By BlueDev In Blogging
I have become a pretty regular blogger. I enjoy the opportunity it gives me to think, write, and sometimes just be silly. And as blogging has become more a part of my daily activities, I do find that I have developed not only an intellectual connection to the activity, but also a visceral one. I think this connection has actually enhanced my enjoyment of the activity.

But not necessarily all the time.

Because that connection with both the activity and the community here has become more than simply a head-game, I have found that some things that occur here reach me on a level that is perhaps more than simply intellectual. Emotional ties to written words and the authors behind them can lead to emotional wounds that scab over much more slowly. And at times that emotional wounding requires a step back, time off, or a refocusing of priorities.

I suppose I am fortunate that I try to blog mostly with my head. I just function that way, and emotion often comes secondary to rational examination. Usually this means I can think the injury away, and when I can't I can convince myself that the step back will do the trick. And I think I am not the only who does this. I think many of us here are able to do the same thing: either compartmentalize things enough or think things through to the point we are healed and ready for more.

However, some seem dead-set on making a show of it.

I don't think I could ever do that. It isn't in my nature. I took some time off from the site here a while back, and never really had any desire to write some sob story about how I didn't feel loved, didn't feel like I fit in, or was tired of the persecution (course that may have something to do with the fact I wasn't being persecuted, I just wasn't getting into the whole thing). Heck, I even thought about calling it quits, but no one probably knew that until they read this. Why? The drama is tiresome, that's why.

And there is plenty of drama to go around. So the sensible of us avoid such shows of irrationality. And you know what? Every time I see an outrageous show of bravado, the puffed up chests, full of indignation and righteous fury at their injuries, I can't help but think it is all a show. Controversy needs attention, lest it isn't controversial, is it? And so those who live on the controversy will put on the show, telling us all how they never will return.

I wish it was so. Go, don't come back, and take the show somewhere else.

Most of us will just continue pressing forward, rolling over the little hills (or huge mountains) that come our way, blogging, befriending, and forgetting those who told us off in their final flash of glory.

Comments
on Dec 14, 2004
Oye Oye!
on Dec 14, 2004
Gotta give props you to greywar, this was, in part, inspired by your "Enough IS Enough" article. Thanks for helping me get over my apathy and actually write one of the things bouncing around in my mind.
on Dec 14, 2004
Oye Oye?? I had a marksmanship instructer who said Aye Aye! that way. OR do you mean the punk OI! oi! Ypu have too much time on your hands GW. You SO needs to get here or you need to get to work.
on Dec 14, 2004
The drama is tiresome, there's no disputing that.

I've only been here a couple of months; has JU changed a lot, for people who have been here longer? Aside from the apparent fact that JU is growing, it seems to me to be a place that embraces a full spectrum of different types of people. When I first got here shortly before the election, the talk was very hot and heavy about politics, and some of that stuff was pretty dramatic. More recently, personal meltdowns have dominated the "headlines" here, and the holidiay season is probably not helping that, but soon enough it'll be something else.

Now, as far as emotionally inspired blogging vs. rational discussion-type blogging, I happen to like a healthy balance of both. I like reading about a range of topics; and I like reading about an individual's range as well, or seeing the different sides of a person. I guess where one draws the line between what makes an emotionally motivated blog interesting as opposed to a pathetic cry for attention - is a personal matter. Kinda like pornography, I guess.
on Dec 14, 2004
I've only been here a couple of months; has JU changed a lot, for people who have been here longer?


I don't know how to describe it, but it does feel different to me. Sort of an intangible feeling.

I like to read emotional blogs as well. The emotional blogs about how someone is leaving and never coming back are the ones that really get to me. Ugh. Just go.
on Dec 14, 2004
Most of us will just continue pressing forward, rolling over the little hills (or huge mountains) that come our way, blogging, befriending, and forgetting those who told us off in their final flash of glory.


So true, BlueDev. You expressed exaclty how I feel at JU. Few things on here evoke an emotional response from me. Most are intellectual discussions and sharing humorous stories and situations. Occasionally, I emotionally get enraged at someone, but at that time, I tell myself, "Step away from the keyboard....Step away from the keyboard..."

The other times I become emotionally involved is when someone I feel a kinship to on JU is going through a hard time. Because of my caring abou them, it can't help but stir emotions.

Great post!
on Dec 15, 2004
I try to stay away from the drama on the boards. It's not worth it. People only end up making a poor, attention-starved image for themselves. It's hard to take them seriously afterwards.


on Dec 15, 2004
There are few people on this board for whom I might succumb to drama, if drama means coming to their defense. Mostly I just wish we could all just get along. *sigh*

-A.
on Dec 15, 2004
It's hard to take them seriously afterwards.


I think you hit the nail on the head there Dusk411. If you want to remain credible, stick to your guns. Don't put on a show though.

Mostly I just wish we could all just get along. *sigh*


But with a little name calling now and then, right? I mean, that is just too fun. Calling someone a poopy-head or something similar just makes me smile. Yes, I am tired and a little weird this morning.
on Dec 15, 2004
The other times I become emotionally involved is when someone I feel a kinship to on JU is going through a hard time. Because of my caring abou them, it can't help but stir emotions.


heather: I am the same. I try to remain rational, but don't always succeed. But blowing up to the point of committing blogger suicide? The idea just seems anathema to me.
on Dec 15, 2004
I hear ya guys, it's a bit hard to tell the true ones who really need help and those crying wolf. I try to stay away from those blogs too unless like heather says, when you feel a kinship w/some peopple you want to reach out. It's harder when that someone is yanking your chain though. It's a hard time for some people, Christmas time, because of lots of reasons. I've been having some roller coaster feelings myself, and will probably let lose when I feel up to it. But it is hard to fathom some of those who swears they're leaving, and then keeps blogging - what's the reason? I don't think I wanna know anymore.
on Dec 15, 2004
To be fair, I think there is probably something to be said for "heat of the moment" blogging (oh, I think I have a new article there), in which folks post things they really mean at that point. I try to take that into account and be forgiving in that regard. But sometimes patterns of behavior (such as yesterday's most recent "I'm Leaving" victim) are revealing.
on Dec 15, 2004
Very well expressed article! well said BlueDev!!
It probably helps alot of us to express our feelings in a blog, and if it's true emotions, true experiences, to heck with those that can't or won't understand!
It's a blog of a different type if they're just seeking points, and/or attention.....
Personally, I blog to help me understand myself!!! and sometimes to share experiences with others.
Trudy
A++++ article BlueDev!
on Dec 15, 2004
Personally, I blog to help me understand myself!!! and sometimes to share experiences with others.


I think that those are pretty darn good reasons to blog Trudy. Thanks for stopping by and leaving your comments.