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Published on January 18, 2005 By BlueDev In Philosophy
Note: This article is something of a follow up to one I wrote yesterday regarding our societal celebrity worship.

All too often we hear about someone famous doing something stupid. We all do stupid things (though I can't help but think celebrities are more stupid prone), but most of ours don't get broadcast all over the place. When questioned about their actions many spout the popular refrain "I'm not a role model".

Wrong. But perhaps they are for the wrong reasons.

Whether they want to be role models or not is irrelevant. The fact is they are going to be, and they should remember that. But they shouldn't be role models because they are famous. They should be role models simply because they are human and have contact with other humans.

As much as I might wish otherwise, I too am a role model. And it certainly has nothing to do with being famous for I most certainly am not. It is because I am a human being who has connected with other human beings. I have children who look up to me. I have friends I interact with who look up to me in some ways, just as I look up to them. I teach a group of 6-7 year olds who look to me as an example and for instruction every Sunday (and whenever else I might see them).

Al because I am simply another human in this great machine.

Why should being famous equate some role model status? I don't think it should. To be quite blunt, I hope my children never use celebrities as role models. If they do I will feel I failed at least in some small way. I don't ever recall looking up to anybody famous. Sure, I wish I could shred like Satch, shoot hoops like Jordan, or write as well as some of my favorite authors. But I never wanted to use them as guides in my life.

I have my parents to thank for that. They raised me in such a way that I just always seemed to know that role models should be more substantial than an image or article on a glossy magazine. My role models were real people, people I knew, people I could connect with. My parents, grandparents and many other relatives, church and scouting leaders, and teachers all had an impact on my life and the way I think. Not because they were famous, but because they were real.

I hope to teach my children the same. We can admire talent from afar, but I we should emulate the virtue that surrounds us every day.

Comments
on Jan 18, 2005
well I think I should expose some of my back ground here.... where I was raised it was said there were 4 ways out of the ghetto. you could ball out {football, basketball etc} you could music out {singers musicians etc} you could gangster out {drug seller robber etc} or you could coffin out {death at young age}

My role model was several gangsters.... which set me on a way wrong path for many years.

I think role models should be the parents of children.. after all we sacrifice for them, we love them , take care of them when ill or hurt or confused.
on Jan 18, 2005
I think role models should be the parents of children.. after all we sacrifice for them, we love them , take care of them when ill or hurt or confused.


I know mine certainly were the most powerful role models in my life. And I hope to be able to do the same for my children.
on Jan 18, 2005
Unfortunately, nobody's perfect. There will be times when role models make mistakes and disappoint, even parents. My life has gone in such a way that a lot of real life people whom I have looked up at role models done nothing in the end except disappoint me when I find the truth about them - liars, users, hypocrites.

There is one special guy I look up as role model. He is suffering from a life long disease, and though at times he becomes very depressed because of his sickness and disability, he keeps on trying to live life as a normal person would. I would only have to think about him and the conversations we have, and I can do most anything. That, and he makes me feel bad for complaining when I am able to just get up and do stuff whenever I want.

on Jan 18, 2005

Reply #2 By: BlueDev - 1/18/2005 4:05:05 PM



Reply #2 By: BlueDev - 1/18/2005 4:05:05 PM
I think role models should be the parents of children.. after all we sacrifice for them, we love them , take care of them when ill or hurt or confused.


I know mine certainly were the most powerful role models in my life. And I hope to be able to do the same for my children.



your a lucky man blue.... my father wassa good man but died when I was 14,,, my mom.. well thats another story...right out of grim horror tales.
on Jan 18, 2005
Great Post, Blue... Models we should be...but not to be put on a pedestal because we are all human. Young people can be so easily dissillusioned when a role model fails in some way, especially a parent. That is why I think that whenever we make mistakes big or small...we should let our children know it and see us when we take responsibity for our actions.